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Real People (Sometimes Real
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WIZDOM.COM
Real People (Sometimes Real
Names) Share Real Health
and Life Stories
The Secret Equation Behind All Successful
Relationships.
By Sarah Ott and Robert Redman
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3. The Values Relationship. Enough about the outside. Now for the
inside.
Values are internal rules. If you are a country, then values are your
laws. There are minor laws, which if broken only amount to a
misdemeanor. And there are major laws. If these are broken, the
relationship risks the Death Penalty.
Just as every country has different laws, every person has different
values. Your values could include for example, Fidelity, Living an
Adventurous Life of Travel, Getting Rich, Belief in God, Doing No Harm
to Animals or Children, Intellect. Your partner's values could include
Fidelity, Staying Physically Fit, Building a Large Family, Doing No
Harm to Children, Being Seen as a Successful, With-it Guy.
Here's the equation. Your top 3 values --we call these your Core
Values-- must overlap with your partner's top 3 values to have a
meaningful relationship. Your top 5 Values must overlap to have an
enduring relationship.
So, take a test with your partner. Each of you should write down your
top 10 values, the rank them from 1 to 10. Next, compare lists. Do
your top 3 values overlap? Your top 5?
Now, let's put it all together. Here are the 4 Secret Equations of All
Successful Relationships.
1. The Ear Equation. Listen twice as much as you talk. And when you
listen, listen intently. Make notes of what your partner is saying as
they are talking, and don't just pretend to listen when you are really
just impatiently waiting on the next turn to flap your lips.
2. The Sex Equation. How many times a month must you have sex at a
minimum? At a maximum? Find out your partner's minimum. It must
be more than your minimum and less than your maximum. If you must
have sex more than 2 times but 10 times would be too much, then you
are compatible with anyone whose minimum is between 2 and 10. It
doesn't matter if his maximum --his dream-- would be to have sex 30
times a month. It's his minimum that counts. If his minimum is 10,
then voila!, Eureka!, there's an overlap, since your maximum is 10.
You'd be a little tired of it but still tolerable and he's be getting just
barely enough but happy.
3. The Weight Equation. For every 10% weight that is gained, 20%
gets withdrawn from the Love Bank. At 50%, the lights go out, sexual
interest dies for most people, and the relationship will not be far
behind. Watch the pounds, people.
4. The Values Equation. Your top 3 values must overlap to have a
meaningful relationship. Your top 5 must overlap to have an enduring
relationship.
Try these Secret Equations out. Have fun! And e-mail us back at
pages@collectivewizdom.com with your stories!
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