September 12, 2009 , last updated January 9, 2013 By Susan M. Callahan, Associate Editor and Featured Columnist
How do you know if you're an "emotional eater"? Easy. Emotional eaters use food to medicate their emotional stress. When they 're sad, they reach for chocolate ice cream instead of crying. When they're excited, they reach for potato chips instead of shouting for joy.
Emotional eaters are also sometimes called "unconscious eaters". They sometimes can't recall how much they've eaten or even what they've eaten. Many overweight people respond to the question "do you over eat" by stating ", "I really don't eat that much". Truth is, we don't remember what we ate. We don't remember because when we ate we were in a fog of emotion.
In America, we are almost all set up to become emotional eaters. Ever notice how many food commercials are shown with sporting events like the Super Bowl or the Oscars? The subliminal message is-- food is necessary to really have "fun". Most of us are even conditioned to never watch a movie without also munching on a box of popcorn or downing a hit dog and a large soda. It wasn't always this way, of course. Several decades back, our grandparents got through listening to a whole radio show without munching. Imagine that.
Is there a way out of this pattern of emotional eating? Sure.
Here are some tips you can use to break the pattern of emotional eating:
1. Write it Down. The way out of this is to write down what emotions you are feeling at different points in the day when you eat. Keep the emotional eating journal for a week. You'll be surprised at what it reveals about you. Over time, you'll be able to control the urge to reach for food instead of your journal. Try it. It works.
2. Drink First. Try to create a rule for yourself --- never eat before you drink a glass of water. What this does for you is to make time your ally in your battle against emotional eating. Just taking a few seconds to drink that glass of water gives you time to collect yourself. It also helps to fill you up, making you less likely to ignore the signals your body will send you that you are already full and don't need to eat.
3. Points for Feelings. The key to breaking the pattern of emotional eating is to feel your feelings. It's just that simple. People who let themselves feel their feelings are not likely to try to "stuff" their feelings or suppress them with food. Food is merely a distraction from the pain, stress or discomfort of feeling your feelings. When you're sad, feel sad. Cry. When you're angry, recognize that, and be angry. Throw a pillow. It may seem scary at first, but, over time you will grow accustomed to experiencing your true feelings, rather than being afraid of them.
Here's a simple trick that helps you to feel your feelings. The next time you're angry, give yourself 1 point. The mere act of having given yourself a point will help you remember to feel that anger next time, rather than distracting yourself from it with food. Same for sadness. When you feel sad, give yourself another point. When you feel overjoyed, give yourself another point, and so on. Over time, you'll start building up points instead of calories.
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4. Chewing Longer at Lunch Reduces Snacking Later. Several studies have found that simply chewing your food longer will reduce your total amount of food you eat later.
One 2012 study comes from the University of Birmingham in the UK, led by Dr. S. Higgs and Dr. A. Jones , asked students to chew food they ate at lunch for 30 seconds before swallowing. Those students who chewed their food for 30 seconds at lunch ate one-half as much snacks as students who ate normally.
As an emotional eater, you know that you may be tempted to grab snacks later in the day, as stress or boredom settles in. Try chewing your lunch for 30 seconds as a tool to curb your impulse to eat more and more snacks later in the day.
In 2011, Dr. Biggs completed a similar study at the University of Birmingham which showed that paying attention to what you're eating at lunch reduces the amount of snacks you eat later in the day.
The study asked conducted an experiment with 29 students. Some of the students were asked to eat lunch while either paying attention to the food they ate, noticing the texture, smell and taste of the food. Other students were asked to read a newspaper while eating or to simply eat without any extra task.
The study discovered that those students who payed attention to what they were eating --- savoring the food --- were far less likely to indulge in snacks later.